“If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music, or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well.” Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
Do what you love! Follow your passion! If you do what you love, then the money will come! This is the common refrain from positive thinking personal development gurus who want you to be your “best” self and live a life of “meaning.” But, are they right? Should you pack up your desk, grab the goldfish a la Jerry McGuire and set sail towards your “dream job?” I say, “HELL NO.”
We as a culture have become infatuated with the jobs that we do. When we meet people at networking events, the first thing that we ask them is, “What do you do?” Nevermind the fact that I may be a psychopathic kitten killer, I just told you that I am an attorney, so the first thing that probably thought was, “That’s a ‘good’ job. He must be a ‘good’ enough person.” Somehow our vocation has become the bedrock of our identity. I don’t like it.
Things were not always this way. During the height of the Industrial Revolution, most people were moving from farms and small towns to factories in big cities . Universal education and public schools were just arriving on the scene. Prior to the Industrial Revolution, most human beings did a job in exchange for money or some other good that helped them survive. Farmers farmed. Carpenters built houses. Etc. Etc. I imagine that there were few conversations between a corn farmer and a carpenter surrounding their “dream job”. You did your job and you got on with your life. LIFE. You remember life, right? That thing that we try and squeeze in after work, between conference calls and before off-site retreats. In fact, for most of human history we humans worked for six months (or 3 days per week) and we STOPPED. We could eat, spend time with our family, read, travel. LIVE.
Then something happened. Businesses reached a point where supply neared demand for most of the things we “needed” and moved their attention to the task of supplying our endless wants. Consumerism was born. We were convinced to work longer hours to be able to afford “things” that were going to make life easier and us happier. Except they didn’t make us happier (not THAT much happier at least). The arms race to consume has us working longer and longer hours to make more money. This money in turn is used to buy things to make us happy because we don’t have the time to engage in experiences that make us happy. Some of the things we “own” take years (even decades) to pay off. Thus, many of us find ourselves working years to pay for things we thought would make us more happy than they actually did.
And so the hours pile up. Since the job takes up so much time, we do what humans do: we give meaning to the job. To justify the fact that we spend our most productive hours in an office under florescent light, we search for the job that that will provide fulfilment. Purpose. Passion. We’ve proven to ourselves that we prepared to work the obscene hours in our “nightmare” job, so would clearly sacrifice those hours for the “dream” job.
Unfortunately, in most jobs there is no meaning in them. At least not the meaning you’re looking for. The job is just a job. If you think about it intuitively, it makes total sense. Most of the tasks people do for money (their jobs) require a monetary incentive for them to continue to engage in that activity. Pressing metals or typing memos as it turns out is no one’s “dream.” We are paid to do our jobs because under normal circumstances that is not what we would choose to do with our time.
What about those who tell us to follow our passions and that the money will come? They are making the huge assumption that there is some economic work out there that is supposed to be your life’s work. What if that just isn’t true? What if your passion is not profitable? What if people are not willing to pay you a living wage for your passion? Why must your passions pay anyway? Isn’t the main point of following your passion to make you happy? What if that has nothing to do with supply and demand curves?
The second problematic element of our search for the “dream” or “passion” job is all too human. Human beings are creatures of exposure. Wonder why kids in the “hood” want to play sports, sing, or become doctors or lawyers? One word: Television. All of those professions are beamed to them on the television. I call this the “Career Fair Effect.” If anyone has ever been to a college career fair you know the drill. You print your resume, troll through booths of employers, hear their spiel and decide, “I am more of an X industry woman than a Y industry.” You have conformed your talents and personality to the options that you feel are available to you. You are limited not by the actual options available, but by what you know exists.
What do I suggest as a replacement for the search for the “dream” job? The Dream Life. First, decouple your life’s work from your economic work. This takes the pressure off your job. Now what pays your rent doesn’t have to be the holy grail. Whew. Second, experiment. Expand your knowledge of what’s out there. This includes the various jobs that exist and interesting activities that one may find a passion. All jobs are not created equal and you may well have a crappy job and need to exchange it for a less crappy job. That’s fine now that we are not expecting miracles. Next, we need to identify relationships and activities that are important to us and make us feel guilty about dedicating too much of our lives to our work.Guilt and excitement mixed together can be powerful. We now have a reason to get the hell out of the office. This is key. Finally, we determine how happy the “stuff” that we trade hours working for make us. Be brutally honest. If we divide our salaries by the hours we work and compare that to the things we buy with our money, we have determined how much something is worth to us with respect to our most important asset: time. Once we stop buying and get rid of stuff that is not worth our time, we can free up time to pursue the activities that truly bring us joy. The job is now placed in perspective and is viewed as the benefactor for our lives, not our lives themselves.
You are not your job. You are you. Your time is precious. It is your responsibility to ensure that the totality of your life makes you happy. For most of us, a job allows us to live. The life that the job affords us is totally up to us. If that life sucks, change it. NOW!
*P.S. Writing this blog is something I am passionate about. I don’t earn a dime for this. If you’ll excuse me, I have to get back to work so I can afford to post some more. 🙂