In Part 1 of this series I talked about how health trumps everything else in the pantheon of valuable goals to set. Today in Part 2, I’m talking about a different kind of health vital to living your most successful life: financial health.
Financial health is a touchy topic for more than one reason. First, we’re socialized not to talk about money. It’s rude. Second, talking about wanting more money feels shallow. If you want to be a millionaire, that’s something you can barely talk about openly in certain company. There’s also a perception that if you’re aiming to have a lot of money that you must be deficient in some other area. As if we are supposed to just altruistically pursue our life’s purpose and then just shrug our shoulders and say “Oops” if we happen to run into some cash during the process.
We share more information with our friends and families about our sex lives than we do about our finances. As a result, people’s knowledge about issues of personal finance is extraordinary low. People will make the largest financial decisions of their lives – buying a car or house, accepting a salary at a new job without a hint of negotiation, taking on six figures in student loans – without consulting a single person around them. It is almost a guarantee that you have a friend who is right now making a decision that will be a financial disaster for them but you’ll never be able to advise them against it because we simply don’t talk about money.
Our mastermind group decided to take a huge leap of faith and share a general overview of our finances with one another to see if there were ways we could help each other or steer one another towards wiser financial decisions: we each exposed our net worth (defined as total assets minus total liabilities). You know what happened? Wasn’t that big of a deal. No wave of smugness or shame passed over the room after real numbers hit the table. We all realized that we all have different starting points that don’t necessarily reflect where we will end up when it comes to finances. And we were able to give each other real helpful advice.
For example, most people know that if their employer has a 401k plan that matches their contribution, that they should contribute enough to get the match. It’s free money, right? 16% of people under the age of 25 take advantage of their 401k match. 16%. And I have a feeling it’s not 100% for people between 25 and 35, or 35 and 45. This is something that we usually set in stone – we either contribute to our 401k or we don’t – on the day of new orientation at our jobs, and never talk about again. Talking about your 401k contributions doesn’t exactly qualify as enthralling dinner conversation. But people can give away literally hundreds of thousands of dollars over a lifetime by ignoring it. And people either know it or they don’t. Many people learned it from their parents growing up and assume everyone knows it. The people who don’t learn it at some point don’t know they don’t know, so they never ask.
There’s also this inexplicable shame when it comes to talking about money – we don’t want to admit we don’t already know it all. It’s like admitting ignorance on an issue of personal finances says something about us as a person. Guess what? You don’t know it all. I guarantee that if you gathered a group of 4 or 5 of your friends and had a serious discussion about buying cars, buying houses, investing, paying down debt, or credit card rewards, you would learn 4 or 5 new things in the first 20 minutes.
What not to do: buy a car without discussing the terms you were offered because you’re scared sharing the interest rate/car price you were offered reveals that your credit score is less than stellar, and instead pay thousands too much for your vehicle; buy a house and sign up for a subprime mortgage because seeking help from those around you would be admitting you don’t know how to buy a house (even if you don’t); enroll in a graduate program without doing the math on how you’ll pay it all back and without discussing it with anyone because you don’t want to be talked out of something you’d love to do even if it means financial disaster in a few years.
Instead, do this: Humble yourself. Recognize that you could be Warren Buffett and still have something to learn about personal finance. Use your mastermind group or friends or loved ones as resources and run by at least 3 people any purchase/investment that costs more than $500, from a new HDTV to a house. Talk openly about your 401k, your IRA, your investments, your credit cards, your interest rates, etc. See if there is something someone else knows that can help you out. The discomfort that comes from talking about money will be more than offset by the dollars that stay in your pocket as a result.